Sharing my story with other women I feel is the only reason I am not in the koo-koo house right now. FOR REAL THOUGH! Expressing my thoughts and feelings with some of my friends around the same age as me and older,  proved to be very beneficial to me. Low and behold! I discovered I wasn’t alone on that boat gliding off of the deep end! Many others had some of the same deep emotional and unexplained out of nowhere kind of feelings that I did. Now if the sentence I just wrote makes absolutely no sense to you, then you’ve just captured the thought I intended, because in the beginning that’s just how it is, a whole bunch of what in the heck is going on around here! That’s why it’s so important to seek out other women who can identify with what you are going through. If you isolate yourself, you will feel that you are alone in your situation when that is so far away from the truth!

Example of how sharing is caring. With just the little bit of knowledge I had gained over the first year or so that I had been going through pre menopause, I was able to help a friend of mine that was at lest 10 years older than me identify what was happening to her. like me, she had no clue! She said that she couldn’t understand why lately, when her husband got up to go to work very early in the morning she couldn’t go back to sleep, in fact, she would start having heart palpitations, and on two occasions ended up in the ER, fearing she was having a heart attack! Each time they found nothing out of the ordinary. In hearing her story I recognized similarities with some of the things that I had experienced, I shared with her that I felt somehow, the things she was experiencing, was linked to the peri stages of menopause, and that many other women that I had spoken to had been through some of the same things. I shared with her what a couple of my older friends had gone through when they first noticed they were going through the change. One who had been involved in public speaking for over 40 years was assigned to prepare and perform a public lecture, but now, it was met with deep fear, she just felt she wasn’t going to be able to get through it. She did fulfill that particular assignment , but took a break from that type of public speaking for a while. Another found it difficult to fly on planes when traveling in this manner was something she had done with no problem. Some women suddenly find it hard to drive on the freeway and will only take local streets to get to where they need to go. Other women who have lived alone for years! Now found themselves in a panicked state when entering their homes or apartments, unable to sleep unless someone else is there, life altering indeed.  I am happy to say that in each of the cases I’ve mentioned, the women involved were in time able to go back to their regular routines, some in months, others took over a year.

I said all of that to say this, had she not said anything to me, how could I have shared stories of myself and others with her? the poor women would have thought she was losing her mind like many of us do in the beginning, but when we talk to each other, we learn and take something away from it, something that we can share with our sisters, daughters, nieces, aunts, the sister girl next door and at work, and even our mothers who may already be done with the change of life thing, but can know understand with more clarity what they have been through. I don’t know about you, but there’s just something about knowing whats going on with myself, that gives me a little piece of mind ;0) The more we share and listen, the more educated we become, we can help forewarn other    women of the battle ahead. Our starting points my be different and our symptoms anywhere from zero to crazy! Lol! But ladies, are you starting to see that you are not alone? something is going on inside of us that we just can’t explain at the time, many of us are not educated or knowledgeable enough on this subject, it’s linked to things that many of us may know very little about. Do as much research as you possibly can and share what you’ve learned with others, the information and stories that you share are so VALUABLE! In my opinion even life saving.

If you would like to share your story with us, please e-mail it to: talk2theledge@gmail.com  Please also state that we have your permission to post it here on our blog. We thank you in advance for sharing.