A BEAUTIFUL MIND

This is actually a mental exercise, I call it that because in the movie called A beautiful mind starring the actor Russell Crowe, he takes on the character of a brilliant man who is diagnosed with schizophrenia, some of the medication that he was prescribed made him feel less then the man he was, long story short, in order for him to contend with his mental condition without going back on these particular meds, he starts to use this type of mind over matter technic so to speak, telling himself that the people he was seeing weren’t real and the voices and events he was playing out in his mind didn’t really exist, so in some ways, I make good use of this Beautiful mind exercise, when I get in that hormonal roller coaster state, I try to convince myself that the only reason I feel this way is because of my condition, I’m not really that horrible person that I feel like right now, I don’t really want to die! Or take my life! I don’t really want to do any of the crazy shenanigans my mind is telling me to do right now! I just have to convince my sane self of that! But her mental wires are a little  bit crossed at the moment, I have to let her know that she has so much to live for! And that she has people in her life who really do love and care for her, she’s got places to go! People to see! And things to do! And loads of things to create and share with others! What?! And although she feels like she’s at the end of her rope right now! If she just takes a moment to take a deep breath and look around her, she’ll find that rope has lowered her down into this beautiful, colorful, peaceful and waterfall draped garden, and not! On the ledge of  some  building that her mind want’s her to think she is! I have to let her know that what she’s feeling at this very moment! Will soon pass, it always does! She just has to ride it out! Look through that photo album of events in your mind when you can remember having the most fun of being with loved ones and doing the things that made you enjoy life! Reflect on those times, and plan for when you can do something like that again. This exercise takes a lot of concentration and it’s a mental fight! But it really is a powerful and helpful tool that has gotten me through some really tough periods, perhaps it will be  just as useful to you. For some of us, our minds can be an asset or liability, this will depend largely on how well you can control it from derailing your thinking during those severe menopausal moments. You too can have a BEAUTIFUL MIND.

A MENOPAUSE PROJECT

Now you might be wondering what a menopause project is, it’s something that is intended to serve as a welcomed distraction, that thing that will take your mind off  you feeling so emotionally battered from this menopausal war you are contending with, the negative thoughts and self worthlessness!
This project can be anything you want it to be, for example, this blog is one of mine, but I have already started a list of things I plan to tackle, some are continuous and others are short term, what about you? do you want to volunteer your time to a worthy cause? have you been wanting to learn how to play an instrument? take an art or cooking class? build something? create a garden or do some type of home remodel project? these projects can be empowering! But most of all, they will get your mind off of that self pity track and trust me! That’s a train pulling into a station you don’t want to be at! When you get engrossed in something that you really enjoy, you will be surprised at how quickly you forget about how bad you were feeling. Now, I do realize it’s not always that easy to motivate yourself to do some of these things, but it truly is very therapeutic if you can, so think of something that you would like to do as your menopause project and do it! And if you don’t mind, please send us a picture of your project or a little story of what you did and how it made you feel, remember, sharing is caring!

FEELING GUILTY

Guilty! Guilty! Guilty!

I always tell women, get ready for a roller coaster ride of emotions, one of them being guilt, and we know how debilitating these feelings can be to the soul, you can go into days of depression dealing with these conjured up emotions. For some women, menopause has a way mimicking feeling of guilt even when you haven’t necessarily done anything to feel guilty about at that moment, its like your mind is reaching back into your past, filtering through its memory banks and targeting in on EVERY! SINGLE! Guilty feeling you’ve ever had! And replaying the situation that went with it! Some from the worst situations in your life! Things that you may have felt were resolved and have moved on from, but now! Your mind makes you relive them like it was yesterday! Feelings of guilt of something you may have said or did 20 years ago! This is insane! How can a women even begin to wrap her mind around something like this along with all of the other pressures she’s feeling from this new emotional bowl of soup she’s been given to eat? it wasn’t even on the MENU! This was no-where near part of her womanly plan of getting older. Many of us are totally unprepared for this! I mean, I heard women speak of hot flashes and some feeling of being a little more emotional than usual, BUT! I didn’t sign up for any of THIS! I’ve even herd through the grapevine, that some women going through Menopause only go through the physical part and not the emotional part, WHAT!

Forgetfulness

Are you finding yourself forgetting a lot?

Hmmm.. did I turn off the iron and lock the door?
Forgetfulness is another thing we menopausal women have to deal with. I am now the sticky and I note queen! If I go to the store without a list, chances are I won’t be returning home with ALL of the things I went there for. Gone are the days when all I needed was my trusty memory to back me up! Now a days, if it ain’t on paper or in my I-Notes, most likely it’s not Gonna happen! Second guessing myself as to if I turned off the iron, stove or if I locked my home or car door is a new way of life, I just can’t seem to remember if I did it or not! I mean, I know that most people forget things here and there, but since menopause I’ve noticed an escalation in my forgetfulness, let’s not even mention how I run into my room in urgency to get something, but when I arrive there, I have no idea what I went in there to get! Huh! That drives me crazy!  So I do what we all do, walk back out of the room until I can remember what I was going in there for in the first place. Lol! Really,  you have to laugh at yourself sometime. :0))